The big, gay marriage post
Normally I’d be overjoyed, and I can’t say I’m not happy with the court’s (very well-written) decision, but frankly, the biggest part of me thinks, “One more down, too many to go.”
I don’t think anybody has the right to deny two consenting adults the right to marry, and the fact that one more state defecting to the side of the angels is a cause for celebration is actually rather depressing. Obviously, it’s a step in the right direction, and I’m particularly happy that even those of us who aren’t Massachusetts residents can get married.
My mother was heavily hinting earlier that we should do just that. Is it normal for a divorcee in her late 50’s to encourage her son in his early 20’s to get married as soon as possible? I find it a little weird, although certainly better than her trying to get me exorcised.
As the New York Times said a few weeks ago, gay marriage is just like straight marriage, only fewer people do it. (Lesbian marriage is another story – or at least it’s not in this one.) While I appreciate the spotlight, the basic premise bothers me. Of course gay marriage is just like straight marriage – why shouldn’t it be? The only difference is in the legality and the discrimination GLBT people face. The latter has caused a lot of us to be a little more disturbed, eccentric, or unhappy than the normal populace, I’ll admit, but not only is it not our fault, but it goes away when the discrimination is downplayed.
That’s what the Mr. Denizet-Lewis doesn’t fully take into account. Today’s gays are different from yesterday’s. (How many words can I end in “ay” in one sentence?) We’ve faced considerably better conditions than we have in a very long while, and we’re all the healthier for it. When we’re afforded the opportunity, our lives are just as boring as anyone else’s.